This Too Shall Pass

How you ever been betrayed? Have you ever been in a relationship with a toxic person, a narcissist, a passive aggressive human? Have you ever been cheated on and felt the burn? Did your mind go crazy and want to know details and did your self-esteem take a nose dive? Do people ghost you? Did a relationship end and you are ruminating and swirling wondering what you could have done differently and try relentlessly to get the other back? Is the rollercoaster ride so intense it makes you feel sick, tired and not of sound mind? If you answered yes, you are not alone. Don't beat yourself up. Don't play the blame game. The worst thing you could possible do is betray yourself and if you do, you will know how much it hurts and will never do it again. Say fuck off to fear (it's ok to swear, it's not a sin!) and make the leap of faith! Forgive yourself and forgive others. There is a reason it's called sweet surrender. The longer you hang on, the more you suffer. The ego is working overtime to keep you a slave to self-sabotage. You are fighting with your own energy in a game you'll never win. Just because we love someone doesn't mean we are meant to be with them. If it ends, there is a reason and it may not be apparent in the beginning. Constantly trying to dig up something that has died some might call insanity. How many times are you going to bury the dead? If you focus too long on the wrong person, the right one may pass you by. Missed opportunities are a real thing. Again, take that leap of faith because there are golden opportunities and infinite possibilities and you will be divinely guided trust me...it is a magical formula!

Forgiveness is another sensitive word. Forgiveness is a process. It is also another illusion. Forgiveness is giving up the illusion that things should or could have been otherwise. After all we did knowingly or unknowingly give consent to our experiences. I believe what is more or equally important than forgiveness is what we learned about ourselves as a result of the breakdown of any relationship and not repeat the same lesson. The definition of forgiveness that I learned from Caroline Myss works for me and as a powerful energy healer I can say it has only sharpened my insight skills. Start with forgiveness of self for not being self aware enough to see what you see now and forgiveness of others so they can continue on their journey of self-exploration.

"Forgiveness is the art of retrieving your spirit and returning it to its present time. Forgiveness is the ultimate and most powerful form of personal spiritual alchemy. It completely transforms your cell memory and helps you to rewrite the code that is managing your biology so that the future cell tissue that spins off from that cell no longer has the toxic memory inside. Therefore, it no longer has the code that produces illness."

Don't rush the process of healing from unhealthy relationships because every step you take is worth the pain to get to wholeness. Plus, you do not want to contaminate future relationships. So beautiful beings, if you're mad, be mad but don't own it. Just say there is anger in me and stay present and it will release and that is the same as sadness and the rest of the emotions. Forgiveness will arrive naturally and you will own the part you played in any kind of relationship dynamic. It takes two to tango as they say so own the unhealed patterns and beliefs you brought to the dance floor. Then put on your mask and snorkel and take a deep dive within and love the unhealed parts until you are swimming in a more synchronized fashion in the sea of awareness! (Trust me, the bottom feeders will not be attracted to you anymore or you to them!)

You will find your person. You will find your people and your community. For me personally I moved to a new area and found so many treasures including truly authentic people and a sacred cow who lives next door. The beautiful family who own the cow gifted me a bottle of milk only to discover that my aversion and sensitivity to milk instantly changed. What the heck was I drinking before...definitely not milk in its purest form that is for sure! Can you imagine then YOU in your purest form!

I also had the honor and privilege of meeting and spending a lot of time with a 550 year old maple tree named 'Grandmother Maple' and when I put my third eye on her, I could feel pure love emanating from her being. So you will find everything you are looking for and more than you could have possibly imagined, but most importantly you will find yourself in its totality that has been there all along patiently and lovingly awaiting your return!

Earthlings will hurt you

You are not immune

Feeding you toxins

From their tainted spoon

You know they taste bitter

The tongue is keen

It’s only when you swallow

It becomes obscene

The poison will fester

From the inside out

While your spirit lives

In Constant doubt

The inner conflict

Is a raging war

Until you decide

You can’t take it no more

The worst betrayal

Is betrayal of self

No one can hurt you

Like you hurt yourself

There is always someone

Something to blame

While your spirit lay dying

In the house of shame

There is a cure

For this insidious ordeal

Feel your way out

Trust what is real

Emotions will reveal

Clarity of mind

Sign away defeat

On the dotted line

Grab a new canvas

A new palette of paint

Create a masterpiece

That’s not easy to taint

Sometimes in life

We take a detour

But we’re still on the path

Like we were before

We are our own rainbows

A colorful unique design

Recovery is a miracle

The heart of the divine

-heather may